It is disheartening to learn, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute 2021, 52% of individuals endure in silence, internalizing self-doubt instead of addressing toxic environments and seeking necessary help and support. 

 

In a professional world where appearances can mask underlying struggles, the illusion of a flawless demeanour may conceal profound challenges. Recently, a revealing moment transpired in a conversation with a bullying victim expressing vulnerability, stating, "They are driving me crazy, and I am on the verge of having a breakdown." 

 

These disclosures unveil the insidious nature of bullying and victimization, often culminating in burnout. Reflecting on personal and professional counselling encounters, a troubling pattern emerges: 

- The delivery of "constructive" feedback that erodes confidence. 

- Instances where ostensibly 'constructive' feedback breaches boundaries, undermining self-assurance with impersonal remarks like "It's nothing personal..." 

- Influence manipulation leading to distorted decisions by upper management affecting lower tiers. 

- Strategic information withholding to assert power over victims. 

- Veiled threats disguised as "career advice," perpetuating a culture of intimidation. 

 

These encounters illuminate the complex dynamics within organizational frameworks, highlighting the nuanced challenges individuals navigate in workplace interactions. 

 

 

Here's a crucial insight to consider: 

- Your self-doubt triggers unresolved issues and insecurities in others; it does not define your reality. 

 

In a surprising twist, those perpetuating victimization and bullying are aware of this dynamic and fear your realization of it. 

 

To reclaim your power and resilience in such situations: 

- Document all interactions for clarity and reference. 

- Cultivate a robust support network. 

- Your Employer will have an EAP available for you to seek safe confidential support (Employment Assistance Programme) 

- Seek assistance from your GP for necessary referrals and support during challenging times. 

- Consider counselling to process and navigate traumatic experiences. 

- Establish clear boundaries, involving HR or seeking legal counsel when needed. 

- https://www.nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk/about.html - For adult and child bullying  

 

These proactive steps can empower individuals facing adversities in the workplace and promote a healthier, more supportive professional environment. 

 

The myth that success requires enduring toxicity is just that—a myth. Success should feel empowering and healthy, not disempowering and unhealthy 

- By setting healthy boundaries and asserting yourself, you’re not being aggressive 

- You're not being overly sensitive. 

- You're not lacking professional skills in any shape or form 

 

Do you feel you are being gaslit and experiencing mental and emotional abuse?  

 

If the answer is yes to this, please look for contact details on my website or on the BACP website and reach out to arrange a consultation about counselling.